The Princess' SOTD 2/4/2011

Good morning and Happy Friday, my loves!! Today's SOTD is a real party joint. Since it's Friday, I felt it was warranted to post something fun. The song is 'Dance Like A Freak' by DJ Class and Fatman Scoop.

In the song, DJ Class is talking about a woman that is a lady in the streets, has her whole life going on, but dances like a freak at the club. Not only do I know chicks like this, but can admit that I am one myself at times. I feel like this. I work hard, so why not play just as hard when the opportunity presents itsself?

Y'all enjoy and have a fabulous weekend!!

-Toni

The Princess' SOTD 2/3/2011

Greetings and salutations, my loves!! Today's SOTD is 'Too Little, Too Late' by JoJo (@jojoistheway on Twitter btw). I've been a fan of hers from jump, and this song is one of my tops by her. I'm dedicating this one today to my sister.
 
In the song, JoJo is telling her dude that he had a chance to do it right, but he waited too long to make things right. The reason I'm sending it out to my sister is because she's in a similar situation right now. Her and her man of 10 years are breaking up because he's not about a got damn thing and she finally has had enough of his nothing ass. The thing is, he's begging and pleading and caking (aka spending money on her for those not familiar with the term) her to get her to stay, saying he'll change and all this bullshit. But, I'm proud to say she is standing her ground.
 
At some point, we all reach our fuckery limit. And like R. Kelly said, 'when a woman's fed up, no matter how you beg, there ain't nothin you can do about it.' Fellas, if your woman comes to you time after time after time saying what she needs and you just blow her off, or even worse, fake it til she shuts up, you're gonna find yourself with your dick in your hand. Not in a Lorena Bobbit type of way or anything, unless she's crazy and REALLY gets tired of your bullshit lol.
 
Point is, take care of home. Listen to what your partner is asking of you. If you can't give them what they need, have some balls about yourself and be honest. Otherwise, you're gonna be sitting there alone wondering where it all went wrong.
 
Con Amor (With Love),
Toni

From The Royal Mail Bag: 'Intimate Affair' by A. Frost

Hello lovers! I received a HOT short story from one of my Facebook friends named A. Frost that I had to share with you. I won't waste a whokle bunch of time on the intro. The story is called 'Intimate Affair'. Grab some coffee and settle in. Thanks Alicia for the great addition to the blog!! :)

The Princess' SOTD 2/2/2011

Good morning my loves (and the rest of you lol)! Today's SOTD is 'Only Girl In The World' by Rihanna. Now, I've never been a big Rihanna fan, but her latest albu 'Loud' has had a few tracks I'm actually into, this being one of them.
 
I picked this track for today because, just like the title and lyrics imply, I want the person I'm with to make me feel like I'm the only girl in the world, 'the only girl that you'll ever love' and all that jazz. What woman doesn't want to feel that way? Don't worry, I'll wait............
 
When the one we want makes us feel like we're all that matters, we women will walk thru Hell in gasoline drawers to make them happy. All we ask is the same in return. Makes us feel as special and important as you want to feel. Show us that you love, want, need, and adore us. I'm not saying worship the ground we walk on or anything (unless that's the way you are. In that case, do what you do.), because that's a lot to ask from anyone. All we want is to feel confident in your feelings for us.
 
I know that there are some guys that are a little emotionally retarded and aren't big, or able in some cases, to effectively express their emotions in words. Hey, that's just the nature of the beast, ladies. No matter how hard we try to mold them, their DNA is what the hell it is. So, we gotta find ways to get what we want out of them emotionally sometimes without making them feel all feminine and shit. But fellas, throw a sista a bone every now and then. You might not be the mushy words type, and that's fine, but show your love in some way. Otherwise, you're gonna find yourself....well, by yourself.
 
So, on behalf of all the ladies, I ask the fellas to make the girl in your life, whether she's your girlfriend, best friend, or whatever, feel like she is the only girl in the world that matters. I promise the benefits far outweigh the discomfort lol.
 
Siempre (Always),
Toni

The Princess' Song of the Day

Good morning, my loves! Today's SOTD is ;You've Changed' by Keyshia Cole. Those of you that are my friends on Facebook know that I do a SOTD just about every day, so I figured I'd start posting it on my blog as well. I'm getting back into my groove slowly but surely.
 
Anyway, today's pick is a song that's always been dear to my heart. Not to say I'm a huge K.C. fan, but her first album is definitely one of my faves. This song has always made me think about the people in my life, whether it's a romantic relationship or otherwise. If you think about the premise of the song, it makes sense.
 
In the song, Keyshia's saying how the guy she's engaged to got some money and totally flipped the script, started acting different and neglecting her, so she had to bounce. How many of us have been in that same position with a person? You love them dearly, romantically or platonically, would do and have done everything to make things work, but they get ahead in some way and start acting brand the fuck new? And when I say 'get ahead', it doesn't have to be monetarily. Sometimes, folks start running in a new circle or get a little popular for whatever reason and they begin to think their shit doesn't stink.
 
Or, sometimes, folks grow and become people that you never imagined they would. That's the part that's always hard for me to accept. I mean, I know that people grow and change and all that, but when you change in such a way that it makes you unrecognizable to those that have been closest to you, that's a problem. What makes it worse is when people make these drastic changes and then expect you to tolerate the fuckery. Well, I'm not the one for that shit believe that. If you become someone I don't know or like, fuck I look like dealing with it?!
 
I have a friend that I've known since high school. We're still cool, but they've become someone that Ifind myself wanting to punch in the face from time to time. Not because I don't love them, because when I say this person means the world to me, I mean it, but becauseI just can't deal with some of teh bullshit they do. They've become a person that is so emotionally detached, it's like talking to a brick wall sometimes, you know? They went thru some stuff, just like the rest of us, but they chose to turn their heart to stone rather than accept what happened and take the lesson. Now, to get them to admit how they feel about anything deeper than a song on the radio is like pulling teeth. Of course, I know everyone isn't as open emotionally as I am, but damn, you can't be a statue expecting warmth from others to give you life, you know? That shit blows my life because this person could have love like they've never experienced before if they would just get the fuck over the hurts from the past and open their heart.
 
Well anyway, rant over lol. Let me get this poem finished so I can post that next. I hope y'all have a great one and remember: While you may feel change is an unavoidable part of life, know you have control over the extremity of the changes you make to yourself and your surroundings.
 
Con Todo De Mi Corazon (With All My Heart),
Toni

From The Mind of the Princess....

INNER THOUGHTS

The look in your eyes lets me know

That the time for talking’s passed.

We both know what the deal is.

No questions need to be asked.

You know you want me

And I know I want you.

We’re both here now.

Just say what I know you wanna do.

Your arms feel so good around me

It’s making me a little weak.

My body’s telling you everything

I can’t find the words to speak.

With every kiss I feel myself

Losing more and more control.

You’re kissing me like you’re

Trying to steal my soul.

The way you’re touching me

Is quickly making me lose it.

All this pre-game is cool,

But I’m ready for the main event.

I know you’re used to running the show,

Women that just lay back and take it.

Well, that’s about to change, love.

Let a bad girl show you how a real woman does it.

C’mon baby, let me give you

What we both know you need.

I know you’ve heard that before,

But I’m the one to believe.

Clothes are flying everywhere,

The room’s getting hotter by the minute.

If it’s feeling this good now, I can

Only imagine how it’ll feel when you’re in it.

There’s a four alarm blaze going in here

And you’re just adding fuel to the flames.

Neither of us it calling 9-1-1,

Just each other’s names.

I’ve heard you talk about other bitches,

But those bitches don’t matter.

They might be hot and shit

But we both know I’m hotter.

As you lay there I’m hoping,

My secrets won’t get out.

Keep this on the hush.

I’m not one to share my inner thoughts.

-Toni D. Cabrera 2011

#LifeLesson: Every Cloud Has A Sliver Lining

Hello my loves!

I'm not quite sure where to start today. There's so much info to share and such a story that it's all kinda bleeding together, so please bear with me as I'm clearly losing my mind lol.

Okay so, y'all remember my post from yesterday, right? The one that said CSE had found my son's deadbeat ass dad. Well, as they say, the plot thickens. That shit is so thick you need a knife to cut through it. I got some information today that had me in such a rage that I could barely breathe. I'm still highly pissed off, but I'm using my head now instead of working off emotion alone.

I found out some information about my son's dad this morning that I NEVER would've expected. Not only is he married now, but he has a 7 month old daughter and owns a tattoo shop in the city where his family is from in Alabama. Now, here's a little twist: He and I aren't technically divorced. We've lived apart for the past 7 years, but since I couldn't afford a divorce and he clearly wasn't gonna pay for it, it never got done. So, not only is he a deadbeat dad, he's a polygamist as well. To say that I almost passed out when I heard is a gross understatement. I literally almost screamed on the train after I read the message. The shock I experienced was palpable. I was so angry that I didn't even feel cold while I walked to my office from the train. THAT'S how pissed off I was.

I don't care that he has a new wife. In fact, I pity her because she clearly doesn't really know Ryan like she thinks she does. I'd bet money she has no idea that Ryan's already married and has an 8 year old son. Initially, I was gonna send her a nice little message, but I know it would do more harm than good. Y'all already know I don't really give too much of a damn about people's feelings, so that's not why I didn't expose that polygamist husband of hers. I said nothing to her because that will give him a chance to try and run to avoid what's about to go down, and I'm not gonna give him that chance. I'm gonna win this battle trust and believe it.

Turns out that he and the new wife have been together for 4 years and just got married in October. They co-own the tattoo shop (Deep South Tattoos in Cullman, Alabama) and all that shit. Well, I hope they've enjoyed it because that joint is about to be called Toni's Tattoos. I"m turning him in to the feds for being a polygamist. Not because I want him back (excuse me while I puke at the mere thought), but because I want him to suffer. I want his whole life to crash down before his very eyes. I want him to know what it's like to be backed into a fucking corner and have to pick up the pieces to his shattered epic fail of a life.

I looked at pics of his daughter, and she's really cute. She looks a lot like D did as a little one. That almost makes it worse, you know? I hate that he's been able to hide his past from his wife like that. I don't care about him, or her too much to be honest. I feel bad for his daughter and for D. They don't even know one another. D's always telling me he wants a sibling, and to know he has one that he may never get to meet pisses me off to no end.

Like I've said, I plan to go out there, but I'm not gonna kill him or anything. I just wanna see the look on his face when I walk into the tattoo shop, you know? I wanna see the look of fear and surprise in his eyes. I wanna hear him start to stutter when his wife asks him what's wrong and if he knows me or some shit. He's a great actor, but not THAT good. He should've remembered that fucking with me the wrong way is bad for your health. I hope when he gets locked up they ass rape him until he can't even sit. I hope they make him the bitch that I already know he is. I'm always turnt up, y'all know that, but I'm on a whole new level right now.

Well, let me get back to work. Please feel free to comment on here or on my Facebook or Twitter. Oh, and if you wanna take the trip with me to Alabama, just let me know.

Con Amor,
Toni